Hold Me Tight

Dr Sue Johnson · 2008

Are you there for me?

The big ideas

1
Rows are often protests
Under the topic sits a quieter question: are you there for me?
2
The loop is the enemy
One reaches, one pulls back, round and round. Name the loop together, not the villain.
3
Reach, and be met
Saying a soft feeling and a clear need, and being heard, is what really changes things.

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